Being a family of 7, we have birthdays spread throughout the entire year. We used to do birthday parties for each birthday. That was EXHAUSTING.

Planning, prepping, spending hundreds of dollars on food, decorations, and presents was just a lot. Parties became more about being the “perfect” host and entertaining guests, rather than focusing on the birthday child. I’m also the person that is shoving people out the door at the ending time because I don’t want stragglers overstaying. I wish I was joking. I have told people “Okay, the party has ended. See you later!” and started putting everything away around them.

Our solution – quit throwing parties.

About 5 years ago, we decided to stop throwing parties. We keep birthdays more intimate for the 7 of us. We designate a day closest to the birth date for the birthday child. They choose the activity for the day. They choose their favorite meal or restaurant. They choose their cake and ice cream (it usually ends up being an ice cream cake I make for them).  They also get whatever presents. Chris and I have a rough budget of what we spend per each birthday. After their activity and meal, the rest is spent on their presents. With the older children, they have opted for no activity and extra cash.

This has been a huge hit. We are able to focus more on the birthday child and make their day special for them. We have gone to water parks, laser tag, Bogey’s, kayaking, and GoApe Adventure.

Long story short, do what works for your family. If its parties, go for it. If it’s not, just quit. You don’t have to do something because everyone else is.

How do you celebrate birthdays? Let us know!